Sometimes, men can be clueless when it comes to deciphering how their women feel about them in relationships. And if you have ever been in a relationship with a guy before, then you would probably know just how much of a struggle it is. You so desperately want him to understand how you’re feeling, but he isn’t always going to get the message. Of course, you don’t want to come outright and say how you think because it’s something that you want him to realize on his own.

However, you also know that he might need a little extra help in getting the point. You don’t want to be spoon-feeding him, but you also don’t want to leave him to his own devices. Sometimes, in a relationship, you want him to be able to treat you a little better. And even when you try to tell him to do so, he still doesn’t do it. There will be a time wherein a man will need to be scared into the thought of losing you before he decides to clean up his act.

And if you want to scare your guy straight, then here are a few ways that you can go about doing so:

1. Stop making yourself overly available to him.

You don’t want to make him feel like you don’t have anything else going on in your life. If he ever asks you out, don’t just drop everything right away for him. After all, he has to know that you have other facets to your life that require your time, energy, and attention. It can’t just be all about him.

2. Stop replying to him right away.

It’s always a good thing whenever you make use of technology to communicate with your partner. After all, we are in the modern age of communication. However, you can’t also be preparing yourself so available to him in text messaging, either. Don’t make it seem as if you’re waiting by the phone for him to text you.

3. Make plans that don’t include him.

Sometimes, it’s good to remind him that you’re capable of making plans without him. This is going to let him know that you don’t need him and that he has to work hard to secure a place in your future. Otherwise, he’s just going to end up taking you for granted.

4. Refrain from being clingy.

Stop trying to be so clingy all the time. Not only will it be pathetic on your part, but he’s also going to hate it. Naturally, most dudes don’t want to be with a clingy girl. He’s going to value his freedom too. So, you have also to be able to give him his time and space to be on his own.

5. Be a little flirty with other guys.

Let him know that nothing is set in stone between the two of you. If he isn’t treating you right, then subtly remind him that you’re capable of getting with other guys as well. You shouldn’t cheat on him. That’s a big no-no. But a little flirtation here and there should be enough to serve as a warning to him.

6. Do some new things in the bedroom.

If there’s one thing that all men are afraid of losing, it’s sexual privileges. And if you remind him of how amazing you can be in the bedroom, then he’s going to think twice about losing you. Also, if you incorporate new stuff into your routine, he’s going to feel compelled to do the same.

7. Focus on yourself.

Try just focusing on yourself. Let him know that he doesn’t make up your entire world. Also, if you take some time to engage in self-care and self-love, he’s going to learn more about what he should be doing to make you feel loved as well.

8. Go hang out with your friends.

Your social life shouldn’t be made up entirely of just your boyfriend. Go and hang out with your friends. Of course, he needs to realize that you can still seek social fulfillment and companionship from other people. He shouldn’t get to be the only one who holds that card.

9. Never be a second priority.

Never allow yourself to be a second priority. For instance, if his boys cancel on a night out with him, and he goes to you as a backup, don’t be so available. Let him know that YOU are the priority here.

10. Stop saying “yes” all the time.

Learn to say no. Of course, when you’re in love with someone, you always want to do whatever you can to please them and make them happy. However, this might not be a good idea, as you might end up compromising your well-being in the process.